Since earliest childhood, I have had an innate, Divinely-given gift of sensing others’ feelings. For as long as I can remember I have also often intuitively known the source and causes of others' pain, their doubts, their fears, as well as many times, their deepest desires and heartfelt longings.
As a teen and young adult, others would come to me and share their feelings and problems. I intuitively knew how to help – because I felt their deeper feelings and beliefs, sometimes even those outside of my friends’ own conscious awareness! - underneath the “stories” they told me about their lives, and was intuitively guided by Spirit in the way I helped them.
As for many with spiritual gifts for which there has been little social acknowlegement, I didn’t understand my gift for many years. I sought out ways to explain it in the conventional world I lived in.
One of the reasons I completed my graduate degree in Marriage and Family Therapy, was to explain and validate what I innately have always known, and been able to do – how to guide others in their journey of Spiritual Healing and transformational life and relationship growth.
While I have been a therapist, coach and relationship expert for over twenty years, I have been an innate, natural-born Spiritual Healing Intuitive all my life.
Since graduate school, I have had a strong love and involvement with women's life experiences. Our journeys of discovering and becoming our True Selves, of becoming wives and mothers, and of creating the families we do are amazing and inspiring. As for many of us, this has been a natural extension of my own life journey as a woman, wife and mother.
As the author of the forthcoming book, Cinderella Wisdom: A Woman's Journey of Spiritual Healing to the Marriage of Her Dreams, I am passionate about assisting divorced women to complete the steps of divorce recovery, rebuild their life after divorce, and step off the Relationship Roller Coaster onto the steady ground necessary to build strong, lasting, fulfilling and flourishing marriages.
How I Became a Divorce and Remarriage Expert
Ideally, individual women or couples come to me in the early stages of relationship problems, before their problems become so serious that one or both of them is seriously considering divorce. In this case, I assist them to prevent divorce by helping women or couples resolve and heal the underlying reasons for their relationship problems.
When this is not possible, I can help you rebuild your life after divorce.
Among the many professional activities and groups of women I have assisted, women who are thinking about, going through, or have been divorced are the group that I have most heart for assisting. My interest and love for helping divorced women began in the 1980's, when I was in graduate school as a recently divorced young mother.
I was searching for a thesis topic, and determined to complete an original research project about the divorce experience of women divorcing gay men. I realized in that research process how little was known and how little help was available for this "invisible" group, (it was non-existent, actually!) and their unique, little-understood experiences and needs.
I was excited to share what I learned with other professionals who might assist women in this circumstance, and was grateful when the research I completed was the second published study in the country at the time about women married to gay men, and the first to study their divorce experience. (Adjustment of Women Married to Homosexual Men: An Exploratory Study, The American Journal of Family Therapy, Vol. 18, No. 3, Fall 1990; pg. 273-284).
As I was completing the research, I was also guided by Spirit in creating my first specialty program for women. Entitled When Your Husband Comes Out of the Closet, it was designed to help women divorcing gay men acknowledge, validate and heal their inner wounds and experiences. My thesis research unveiled these wounds in divorced women, and my first women's specialty program opened the way for healing them.
Voila! Without a gray hair on my head, I became the Relationship Godmother.
Through the ensuing twenty years, I have continued to assist women to rebuild their lives after divorce. I have led numerous divorce recovery groups and have assisted hundreds of divorcing or divorced women through individual therapy or coaching.
This has naturally expanded into providing therapy for relationship and family problems for women, couples and families in the stage of remarriage and forming a step family. Having led numerous remarriage and step family therapy and coaching groups, and assisted hundreds of women, couples and families in this stage of life through one-on-one therapy, couples therapy, or family therapy, I have found that applying what we know about marriage and family formation and therapy in general, for couples and families in this common, yet distinctive experience, doesn’t meet their needs very well.
For over two decades, I have been listening to and providing therapy and coaching for hundreds of women in marriages that are struggling or have gone awry.
I have seen how deeply we yearn for a happy marriage and family life.
I have seen how we will go around the Relationship Roller Coaster over and over again, until we finally get it right. I have witnessed firsthand the sacrifices we, as women, will make for the fulfillment of our yearning.
And I have seen the cost born by ourselves and our children as we have struggled.
As I have continued to be guided by Spirit in my profession, I was led to the arena of energy healing. With these tools, which I now have synthesized into Spiritual Energic Healing™ which are a part of Flourish Life & Relationship Coaching™, my innate gifts are enhanced as I empower women and couples to find and heal the root causes of the patterns of pain in their lives and relationships.