Are You Stuck on a Relationship Roller Coaster
Searching for the Secrets
for a Happy, Lasting Marriage?
If you are like many married couples, singles, and divorced women and men, one of your deepest desires is to be happily married.
Yet as hard as you (and your current or former spouse) try, you have problems that get in your way of the happy loving marriage you seek.
Do you relate to one or more of these common marriage problems?
* Getting stuck in communication problems
prevents you from really understanding each
other and working together as a team.
* Aching for more emotional closeness in your
marriage,and when one of you reaches out for
that closeness, the other pulls away.
* Dealing with issues by pursuing discussing them,
even when one of you is overwhelmed and just
can’t discuss it anymore. You go around
and round for what seems like hours, until one
of you explodes, or one of you retreats into
the silent treatment.
* One or both of you has experienced previous painful relationships, divorce, or
traumatic experiences that make it difficult to really trust and open your heart to
one another, even though you deeply desire this closeness –
a closeness that creates a safe haven from the storms of life.
* Feeling angry, hurt, discouraged, alone - yearning for love, but not knowing how
to stop the problems, and create a close, emotionally-fulfilling connection
in your marriage.
Sadly, many couples secretly, silently and painfully deal with these and similar problems in their marriages.
They try their best to stop them, but they keep reoccurring, as they keep going around on the Relationship Roller Coaster.
As they do, many feel the love and magic slipping away.
If things don’t change, they may doubt
that their problems can be solved at all.
In the worst case, they may choose the solution of last resort – divorce – and so experience more pain, sorrow, anger and heartbreak for both of them, as well as their children.
If You are Married, You Don't Have to Remain Stuck
on the Relationship Roller Coaster ~
You Don't Have to Lose Your Dream
Joan and Bob* came to see me on the verge of separation.
They had been married for 23 years, raised four children together, and built a successful business. They had many years of conflictual communication, unhealed hurts and misunderstandings that had created a large wedge of anger and resentment between them.
Joan thought that Bob worked too much, and wanted more time for “pre-retirement” travel. Bob saw six more years of looming college and other expenses and thought he couldn’t let up.
Bob felt misunderstood and unappreciated, and started spending even more time at the office. Joan felt alone and taken advantage of, and started drinking too much wine with dinner to help herself relax. One thing led to another; Bob began flirting with the idea of an extra-marital relationship, while Joan began going to bed alone and under the influence.
Meanwhile the mutual hurt, anger, misunderstanding and resentment escalated until Bob began spending nights at a local hotel. They contacted me the day after Bob had spent three nights in one week away from home.
I helped them release all the stress and built up hurt, anger and misunderstandings between them. They learned to express their feelings, needs and points of view in a way that brought understanding and reconciliation to their marriage.
With my help and guidance they were able to find solutions that worked for both of them, to Bob’s concerns about money and Joan’s desire for time together.
What’s more the couple learned how they had gotten into the situation they were in, healed the invisible roots of their marriage problems.
It wasn’t always easy; a lot had to be worked through, released and healed. As they worked together with my help to heal and restore their marriage, the love that had worn thin between them, came to full bloom once again, and was doubly sweet because of the struggle they had experienced.
Joan and Bob celebrated their 24th anniversary toward the end of their personalized Creating Joy for Couples! program, by going on a Mediterranean cruise – the first vacation they had taken together for over six years. They both came back glowing like newlyweds.
Together, their dream of a happy, emotionally-fulfilling marriage was reignited.
*Names and essential identifying details have been changed to safeguard the confidentiality of these clients.
You Can Re-ignite the Magic in Your Marriage
My couple’s Flourish Relationship Coaching™ program, Creating Joy for Couples! empowers married & second-marriage couples with the secrets & skills, including the principles, practices and skills of Feminine Spiritual Power, for getting off their own Relationship Roller Coasters, to stop fighting & start loving each other again.
In this unique, one-of-a-kind specialty program of Spiritual Energy Healing for marriage, couples:
* Are guided & empowered to resolve their immediate
problems in a way that increases love &
* Find and heal the underlying reasons for their
specific patterns of relationship pain
* Learn how to get themselves out of negative
cycles, by understanding their unique Personal
* Discover how to regain their personal emotional
balance with easy-to-use Flourish
Self-care Tools™, so they can quickly restore
harmony & emotional closeness in their
* Deepen their emotional connection, trust, love &
sexual fulfillment through understanding &
applying the Seven Principles for Lasting Love™.
* Learn skills for navigating through differing
needs & expectations, with Heart-centered
* Learn how to transcend deep pain, & find
forgiveness & healing for serious relationship
wounds, such as addiction, abuse or infidelity.
* Gain crucial insight & clarity about how they
create struggle in their marriage, & skills for
Creating Joy instead!
Many couples who have worked with me in the specialty Flourish Relationship Coaching™ program of Spiritual Energy Healing, Creating Joy for Couples!, who were previously in deeply entrenched patterns of pain and conflict in their marriages - some even on the brink of separation or divorce - have found hope, spiritual healing and renewal, and restored their marriage on a new solid foundation for lasting love, happiness and flourishing.
If You are Divorced or Single, You Can Still Have Your Dream
Susan* is a divorced mother of 2, who contacted me three years after her divorce.
All her life, she has always wanted and dreamed of her own “Happily Ever After” marriage and family, and was devastated by her divorce.
Three years after the final decree, though she had learned to cope, the pain, guilt, anger and grief she felt inside was still intense. She sought out help to let go of the intense pain from the past, learn the lessons that were there for her to learn, and be able to go forward in her life with joy and confidence, and create the Happily Ever After marriage she knows she is destined for.
Together we worked to find and heal the invisible roots of her relationship problems, especially to help her learn the lessons that were there for her to learn from her divorce, and to gain the inner core of confidence that comes to women when we are securely anchored in our true selves.
Susan is committed to her dream, and she worked with focus to release and heal the pain, anger, guilt and grief from her past marriage, find and embrace her True Self, and claim the birthright to her happy marriage that is her dream and destiny.
As she was completing her Happily Ever After! program, Susan wrote:
"Thank you so much Debra. I appreciate all of your help in getting me to this place of feeling at peace with where I am, expecting to receive my dream, & excited exhilaration to spread my wings & soar to a prosperous new life and marriage!"
*Names and essential identifying details have been changed to safeguard the confidentiality of this client. The essence of her story and results are true.
My premier women's Flourish Life Coaching™ program, Happily Ever After! can help you get off the Relationship Roller Coaster, and finally get it right the next time around, by becoming empowered with the personal foundation and skills you need to co-create your own happy, successful marriage.
Through this program of Spiritual Energy Healing and transformational growth, divorced and single women learn the principles, practices and skills to heal from the painful experiences, memories, and patterns in their past marriages or relationships. They discover the Feminine Spiritual Power and Pathway to:
* Finish their divorce or last break-up for good
* Learn how to tell a healthy relationship from
an unhealthy one
* Heal the wounds from the past, and become
at ease, being YOURSELF in relationships
* Discover how to ATTRACT a good man
* How to nurture a good relationship (and how to
tell the difference between a healthy relationship,
and an unhealthy one!)
* Find out the secret to the marriage of their dreams
(it’s not what you probably think!), at ANY age!
Visit the page to learn more!
“We’ve been to therapy before, and we still have problems.”
You may feel discouraged, and resigned to living with your problems, because nothing you have tried so far has solved them. Part of you may fear that divorce may be your only option at this point, (what a scary thought!) or that you are somehow destined to be single or divorced for the rest of your life. Many of my clients have felt the same way that you do.
As we have worked together through their fears and concerns, women and men have found renewed hope that real change and healing is possible. They have been empowered in solving not only their immediate problems, and also guided in discovering and healing the underlying reasons and invisible roots under the surface of their marriage and relationship problems.
If married, they have given rebirth to the love between them, that many thought might have been irretrievably gone, and together, they learn how to create the emotional safe haven that is their hearts' desire.
If single or divorced, my clients have found healing for the wounds of their divorce or break up, completed the steps of divorce recovery, and found healing for the underlying reasons keeping them single or divorced. They create the new foundation within themselves for a happy, loving and lasting marriage.
Does This Speak to Your Heart?
If what you have read here resonates with your heart’s desire, and you are ready to get off your Relationship Roller Coaster, end your relationship problems for good, and find true healing for your marriage, I invite you to participate in a special opportunity – a Creating Love to Last a Lifetime! Consultation.
In these 75 or 90-minute phone consultations, you will gain:
Increased clarity about what you really want
in your marriage,
Insights about what is in your way to achieving it,
Renewed hope and belief in yourself or your marriage
A 3-stage beginning plan for creating
the marriage you dream of!
For a limited time only, you can benefit from either a Heal My Life NOW!, or Creating Love to Last a Lifetime! Coaching Initial Consultation for a reduced fee.
Please visit the Get Started with Debra page to learn how you can benefit from this limited-time offer.
For Such a Time as This in Your Life or Marriage
For over twenty-five years, I have been guiding women, men and couples to:
End their marriage or relationship problems for good
Get off the Relationship Roller Coaster
Heal the underlying reasons for their patterns of relationship pain and struggle
Learn the secrets and skills to creating the happy, lasting, emotionally-close marriage of their dreams.
Synthesizing the expertise, insights and wisdom I gained from over two decades as a marriage and family relationship therapist, with cutting-edge Spiritual Energy Healing™ and Feminine Spiritual Power principles and practices into Flourish Life and Relationship Coaching™, I guide women and men to quickly and gracefully gain freedom from the pain of the past, end their relationship problems, and create a new beginning and inner foundation for a happy marriage. As an innate, lifelong Spiritual Healing Intuitive and spiritual teacher, I am guided as I empower couples and divorced and single women and men, to find hope, spiritual energy healing, and lasting solutions for their personal and relationship problems, and then to co-create the flourishing, happy marriages of their hearts' desire.
I know the pain and heart-ache of marital conflict first-hand, having been previously divorced myself. That was the past; I am now happily married to a wonderful man – and together, we have a joyful, heart-centered union.
Through the journey to my own happy marriage, I have discovered the secrets to lasting relationship harmony and love in the real world.
The wisdom and insights I have learned, coupled with healing of the hidden causes of relationship conflict, and practical Flourish Self-care and Relationship-care Skills and Feminine Spiritual Power tools are combined in my unique and exclusive, one-of-a-kind specialty Flourish Life and Relationship Coaching™ programs of Spiritual Energy Healing™ and transformational growth.
I can empower you with lasting solutions, and the secrets to creating the marriage of your dreams, in the real world.
From my office in east Texas, I work with women and men from through out the state, in Utah, Colorado, and through out North America. Contact me today for your Creating Love to Last a Lifetime! consultation. Only a few openings are available at any one time.
Debra Gordy, MS MRET
Flourish Life & Relationship Coach
Spiritual Healing Intuitive
Founder, The Sophia Women's Institute
Author of the forthcoming book: Cinderella Wisdom: A Woman’s Journey of Spiritual Healing to Sacred Partnership
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